Friday, June 13 2025
Is Your Home Draining You? Here’s How to Reclaim Your Emotional Energy
We often evaluate our homes by square footage, property value, or curb appeal—but what if the true measure of a home is how it makes you feel? In Episode #699 of LIFE’s Inside Track, Ken and Yetta Dekker challenge us to take an emotional energy audit of our living spaces—and the results might surprise you.
The Hidden Cost of a House That Drains You
You may love your neighbourhood, the price may have been right, and your mortgage might be manageable. But if your home leaves you feeling exhausted, irritated, or unsettled, it could be silently draining your emotional energy.
Many homeowners experience stress without ever connecting it to their living space. That tension might show up as chronic clutter you don’t know how to solve, long commutes that leave you arriving home already depleted, or awkward layouts that disrupt flow and harmony within the household.
Yetta shares, “It’s not just the money. It’s the cost to your joy, your peace, and your well-being. And that toll adds up fast.”
7 Common Emotional Energy Drains in the Home
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Clutter with no clear home – Lack of storage or poor layout can cause chaos that erodes your calm.
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Noisy distractions – Fans, appliances, nearby traffic, or even footsteps overhead can become background stressors.
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Poor lighting or blocked windows – Natural light boosts mood. Obstructions do the opposite.
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Commutes and missed moments – Time lost in transit often means lost connection with loved ones.
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Mismatch in house size – Too big to maintain or too small to breathe—both can drain your vitality.
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Incomplete projects – The to-do list that’s never written down but lives rent-free in your mind.
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Shared spaces that clash with personality styles – For example, pacers and quiet thinkers rarely thrive in the same office nook.
Small Changes That Spark Energy
The good news? You may not need to move. In Segment B, Ken and Yetta offer actionable ways to shift your space into an energy-giving zone:
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Open blinds fully each day to let in more light.
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Remove visual obstructions from windows.
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Reconfigure furniture for better flow.
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Steam-clean rugs or remove ones that no longer serve.
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Add indoor plants or flowers only if they bring you joy—not guilt.
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Adjust lighting for the intended mood and function of each room.
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Complete one lingering task today—you’ll feel lighter immediately.
When It’s Time for a Vitality Move
Sometimes, no matter how many adjustments you make, the space simply doesn’t support your lifestyle anymore. That’s when it might be time to consider what Ken and Yetta call a vitality move—a decision to shift homes not just for financial reasons, but for emotional renewal.
Maybe the stairs are no longer manageable. Maybe the location doesn’t serve your season of life. Or maybe, like one of their long-time clients, you’re holding out for a dream that gives life, like a greenhouse set up for hydroponics. When it shows up—and you’ve already done the inner work—you’re ready to jump.
Your Home Should Give You Life
At its best, home is your sanctuary. It should fill you up, not wear you down. If your space isn’t doing that, you don’t have to settle. Start with an emotional energy audit. Adjust what you can. And if needed, reach out for a clarity call. Because the next real estate decision you make could transform far more than your address—it could change your entire emotional experience of life.
Ready to reclaim your energy and design a home that supports your well-being?